第24章 优于过去的自己 10（第1页）

第24章优于过去的自己（10）

Someofusmaythinkthatwe'vebeenhurttoodeeply，ortoooften，tive。Butironically，it'sthoseofuswho'vebeenmosthurtthatreallyive，foronesimplereason:likecer，bitternessdestroyitshost。U'sswiftlyrootedout，ittakesholdandgrauallyevenkillingthosewhoinsistongdetermi。

Forthetruthisthatunlesswefive，weeverrecover。Ourwoundswilluetofesterandheaeseproverbputsit，"Whoeverseeksrevengeshoulddigtwograves。"

Takiepforsomepeivenessfeelsimpossiblebecausetheyhaveogoaboutit。Thefirstandmostimportantthioacceptisthattheactivegoingtoeasy。Infact，itwillprobablybethehardestthingmostofuseverhavetodo。

&allyunfairthatweshouldhavetivewhenwe'retheoneswhohavebeenhurt。Andthat'sthecruxiveness。

Thesaying&quivea;mayrollofftheto'sasshallowasitisshort。Forohing，it'sdhtimpossible。Foramissesthewholepointivehineedfiveihingswe&#et。Ratherthahemu，weodrawalihem，deliberately2ottoagainstthepersonwhodidthem，andmovingon。

That'swhy，sometimes，theinitialactivenessmayseemrelativelyeasy，butdealingwiththeemotionsthatfolloweverytimeyouseethatpersohemorjustthinkaboutthem，behardertodealwith。Truefiveao;it'saotionaltation。

Andthelongeryouwaittivesomeoheharderitbeereallydoesn'theal，itjustgivesthebitternessaloawayatyoufrominside。Ifyouwaitforthe&quhttime"youmay。

&ionyoushouldaskyourselfbefintotackle3theartivehis:Howmanyofusareeverpletelyiiion?

So，mywife，elia，andIboughtapieceofcheap，flat-paeveure。Forthefirstfewmonths，itfooledeveryowassmart，fundimpressive，atedourhomeperfectly。Butastimerolledby，theveneersloeelattheedges。Itdidn'tcreatethesameimpressioleastitwasbeihefactisthat，likeitornot，behindoursmartveneer，we'realljustchipboard4。Sobeforewebeeotherpeople'sjudgeandjury，we'dbewisetotakealong，hardlookatourselvesinthemirror。Andthemoreweseeourselves，wartsandall，themorewe'llwanttoaiveothersfortheirflaws，andthemive，themorewe'llkment。

Wouldyhtorhappy?Fetasatisfyiion。Soifyouthinkyhtand'tfinditiive，askyourselfthisquestion:Wouldyhtorhappy?

&hehardestthingsabivenessismakingthatfirstmoveespeciallywhespokentothepersonwhohurtyouforaWhile。Butrememberthey'llprobablybehappytohearfromyou。Theymighteveyou'vedohey'vewaodoforyears。Butkeepinmindythisforyoujustasmuchasthem，sodon'tbeupsetiftheydon'treactasyouhoped。

Ofepeopledon'tbelievethey'vedohingwrong，ordon'tcare，sotellingthemyivethemwouldonlyfrustratethemandyou。Butthatdoesn'tmeanyou'tfindfivenessi。Infact，that'swhattruefiveinggerandhurt，beihenedandmovingon。

Themoreyounurtureyourresehemoreunhappyyou'llbee。Unlessyoulearhe"lostart&qu，you'llalwaysremainaviotjustofpeoplewho'ved，butalsoofyourowions。