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微笑的力量 The Power of Smile(第1页)

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微笑的力量ThePowerofSmile

戴尔·卡耐基Daleegie

戴尔·卡耐基(1888—1955),美国著名的心理学家和人际关系学家。卡耐基开创的“人际关系训练班”遍布世界各地。他以超人的智慧、严谨的思维,在道德、精神和行为准则上指导万千读者,给予人们安慰、鼓舞,使读者从中汲取力量,从而生活,开创崭新的人生。早期著作《人性的光辉》《语言的突破》《美好的人生》《人性的优点》曾被译成28种文字,其中《人性的弱点》一书,是继《圣经》之后世界出版史上第二畅销书!

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&hesenewwordsbeforeyoureadthisarticle。

1。grouch[graut?]n。不高兴的人

&e[i'limi]v。清除

3。miserable['miz?r?bl]adj。痛苦的

Youmusthaveagoodtimemeetingpeopleifyouexpectthemtohaveagoodtimemeetingyou。

Ihaveaskedthousandsofbusiosmileatsomeoneeveryhourofthedayforaweekaodtalkabouttheresults。Howdiditwork?Let’ssee。。。HereisaletterfromWilliamB。Steinhardt,aockbroker。His'tisolated。Infact,itistypidredsofcases。

“Ihavebeenmarriedfhteenyears,”wroteMr。Steinhardt,“andinallthattimeIseldomsmiledatmywifeorspoketwodozenwordstoherfromthetimeIgotupuntilIwasreadytoleaveforbusiness。IwasogrouchesnBroad>

“Wheomakeatalkaboutmyexperiehsmiles,IthoughtIwouldtryitforaweek。Sothem,whileyhair,Ilookedatmyglummuginthemirrorandsaidtomyself,‘Bill,ytowipethescoussofyourstoday。Ytosmile。Ahtnow。’AsIsatdow,Igreetedmywifewitha‘G,mydear’,andsmiledasIsaidit。”

“Youwarshemightbesurprised。Well,youuedherrea。Shewasbewildered。Shewasshocked。ItoldherthatiureshecouldexpectthisasaregularodIkeptitupeverym。”

“Thisgedattitudehtmorehappioourhomeihssiedthantherewasduriyear。”

“AsIleaveformyoffice,Igreettheelevatoroperatorimeha‘G’athedoormanwithasmile。IsmileatthethesubwayboothwhenIaskfe。AsIstandontheflooroftheStoge,Ismileatpeoplewhoulyneversawmesmile。”

“Isoonfoundthateverybodywassmilingbackatme,Itreatthosewhoewithplaintsrievanacheerfulmanner,IsmileasIlistentothemandIfindthatadjustmentsareaplishedmucheasier。Ifindthatsmilesarebringingmedollars,manydollarseveryday。”

“Isharemyoffiotherbroker。OneofhisclerksisalikableyoungdIwassoelatedabouttheresultsIwasgettingthatItoldhimreynewphilosophyofhumaiohewhenIfirstyofficewithhisfirmhethoughtmeaterriblegroulyretlygedhismind。HesaidIwasreallyhumanwhenIsmiled。”

“Ihavealsoelimiiysystem。IgiveappredpraisenowinsteadofnatiooppedtalkingaboutwhatIwant。Iamntoseetheotherperso。Ahierallyrevolutionizedmylife。Iamatotallydifferentman,ahappierman,ari,rifriendshipsaheonlythingsthatmattermuchafterall。”

Youdon’tfeellikesmiliwothings。First,forceyourselftosmile。Ifyouarealone,forceyourselftowhistleorhumatune。Actasifyouy,andthatwilltendtomakeyouhappy。Hereisthesychologistandphilosopherutit:

Astofollowfeeliioogether;aiion,whiderthemorediretrolofthewill,wedirectlyregulatethefeeling,whiot。

Thusthesnvoluntarypathtoess,ifouressbelost,istositupcheerfullyandtoadspeakasifesswerealreadythere…

Everybodyintheworldisseekihereisoofindit。Thatisbygyhts。Happidependonoutwards。Itdependsoions。

Itisn’twhatyouhaveorwhoyouareorwhereyouareorwhatythatmakesyouhappyorunhappy。Itiswhatyouthinkaboutit。Forexample,twopeoplemaybeinthesameplagthesamething;bothmayhaveaboutanequalamountofmoneyaige—aonemaybemiserableaherhappy。Why?Becauseofadiffereitude。IhaveseenjustasmanyhappyfagthepoorpeasantstoilingwiththeirprimitivetoolsiihetropicsasIhaveseeninair-edoffiewYeles。

&hihergoodorbad,”saidShakespeare,“butthiso。”

AbeLinarkedthat“mostfolksareaboutashappyastheymakeuptheirmindstobe”。Hewasright。

Wheneveryougoout-of-doors,drawthe,carrytheoftheheadhigh,andfillthelu;drinkinthesuyourfriendswithasmile,andputsoulintoeveryhandmisuoodanddoethinkingaboutyourenemies。

Trytofixfirmlyinyourmindwhatyouwouldliketodo;ahoffdirehttothegoal。Keepyourmiahingsyouwouldliketodo,ahedaysgoglidingaway,youwillfindyourselfunsciouslyseizingupouarerequiredforthefulfillmentofyourdesire,justastheiheruheelemeureinyourmindtheable,ear,usefulpersoobe,ayouholdishourlytransfyouintothatpartidividual。。。Thoughtissupreme。Preservearightmentalattitude-theattitudee,frankness,andgoodcheer。Thtlyistocreate。Allthihroughdesireandeverysincereprayerisanswered。Webeelikethatonwhichourheartsarefixed。Carryyourdtheh。Wearegodsinthechrysalis。

&eseiseinthewaysoftheworld;andtheyhadaproverbthatyouandIoughttodpasteis。Itgoeslikethis:“Amanwithoutasmiliopenashop。”

So,adepartmentstoreinNewYorkreofthepressuresitssalesclerkswereunderdurimasrush,presehereadersofitsadvertisementswiththefollowinghomelyphilosophy:

THEVALUEOFA**ILEATCHRISTMAS

Itothing,butcreatesmuch。

&hosewhoreceive,withoutimpthosewhogive。

Ithappensinaflashandthememoryofitsometimeslastsforever。Nonearesorichtheygetalongwithoutit,andnonesopoorbutarericherforitsbes。

Itcreateshappihehome,foodwillinabusiness,aersignoffriends。

Itisrestthttothedisced,suhesad,aarouble。

&otbebought,begged,borrowedorstolen,foritissomethingthatishlygoodtoanybodytillitisgivenaway。Andifi-minuterushofChristmasbuyingsomeofoursalespeopleshouldbetiveyouasmile,mayweaskyoutoleaveoneofyours?Fornobodyneedsasmilesomuchasthosewhohaveogive!

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