第3章 喜欢自己更多一点 1（第1页）

第3章喜欢自己更多一点（1）

LikingYourselfMore

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1。apologetically[？，p？l？'d？etik？li]adv。道歉地

&eem['selfis'ti：m]n。自负

3。subtle['s？tl]adj。微妙的；精细的

4。spire[k？n'spai？]v。密谋

5。lionizes['lai？naiz]v。把……奉为名人

6。humiliating[hju：'milieiti？]adj。丢脸的

7。pareto把……比作，比喻为

8。struggleto努力奋斗，竞争

&in坚持，固执于

10。capitulate[k？'pitjuleit]v。屈服

11。iude[i'ju：d]adj。无能

12。inferior[in'fi？ri？]adj。劣质

&uroafriendwhinmydaskedher，“Whatdoyoulikeaboutyourself？”Werodeinsilenceforseveralminutes。Fiomeandsaid，apologetically，“Ikofanything。”

Iwasstunned。Myfrie，g，andpassioshe’tseeanyofthat。

Ikaloeemhasbeethenumber-oneissueplaguieGod’sassurahe’sabsolutelyostofus’tbelievehemeansus。It’sliketheicaleditorwhotellsthecubreporter，“Ifyourmothersaysshelovesyou，checkitout。”

Iorterfor12years。OhingsIlearnedinreseargastarbagei。”Ifyourrawdataisflawed，youendupwithafaulty。Thesameistrueeseeourselves。Ifwelackself-ce，maybeithfla>

&yis，inhundredsofsubtleways，ourculture，family，friehoughtlife—spiretoundermineource。Wegrowupinfamiliesvoidofaffirmatiemehebuildingblockstoself-wefindourselvessmathemiddleofaworldthatliowoHollywoodstarletsandBarbie-dollfigures。Ourpaycheck，ourtitle，orsomeotherartificialyardstickgivesustemporaryeheworldofTheAccepted。Butis，weknowitisn’treal。Howdowefindourwaytothetruth？

I’mteybrotallthegeouaingmanuals，ts，ortomakesenseofputers。WhenIfirsthadtolearnhouterformyjob，IwasceditwastheendoflifeasIk。

Irememberwithpainfulclarityabeginner’sputerclasswheretheinstructortoldusto“pressanykey”。Isearvainforthe“aheendoftheclass，IwasIwasn’tsmartenoughtodrivemyselfhome，muchlessdressforworkthehisitethefactthatImanagedahome，afamily，ajob，andaprofessionalstaff。

Whywasitsohumiliating？Beyselftothe1irldoorwhoeffortlesslysurfedtheoresearchhertermpaperswhileIstruggledjusttologon。Insteadofsimplygthatteicalprowessisrengths，IcludedImustbestupid。It>

Peoplerespectusasmuchaswerespectourselves。That’swhytheabsenceofself-telegraphtoothersnottobelieveinus。

Fgledtoreentgraciously。Ifsomeoneentedmyhair，I’ddistit。I’dsaymyhairstylemademyfacelookfatorthatmyhairwasamousycolor。WhatIreallymeantwas，theremustbesomemistake。I’mnotward。Idon’tlikemyselfand’treallybelieveyoudo，either。Thetroubleis，ifwepersistinputtingourselvesdowuallypeoplestarttobelievewe’reright。

&heproblemisn’tfaultydata。Wehaveaureofourselvesorasituatioulatethefirsttimesomeonegesus。