第23章 我们为什么不快乐 9（第1页）

第23章我们为什么不快乐（9）

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佳句翻译

1。你不能做所有想做的事，如果你尝试一下，就知道那其实并不开心。

2。度假的精神实质是给予。

3。将自己的心事吐露出来，有助于缓解消极的情绪，而且交流可以给你提供一个缓解压力的环境。

短语应用

1。Writedlistandsticktoit．

stickto：坚持；忠于；信守

2。aerprovideyouwithsomestress-reliefsolutions．

providewith：供给；提供；为……装备上

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Butifyouarenious，ahingsthehardway，theorelaxbyphysicalmeasures。Dr。DavidHaroldFink，whowroteReleasefromension，saysthatthebestwaytodothisistotalktoyourbtoDr。Fink，wordsarethekeytoallkindsofhypnosis；andwhenyoutly’tsleep，itisbecauseyouhavetalkedyourselfintoaoundothisistodehypnotizeyourself—andyoudoitbysayingtothemusclesofyourbody：“Letgo，letgo—loosenupandrelax。”Wealreadyknowthatthemindarelaxwhilethemusclesaretense—soifwewanttogotosleep，westartwiththemuscles。Dr。Finkreends—anditworksoutiillowuoeasethetensionohatwetucksmallpillowsuhearmsfortheverysamereasoelliorelax，theeyes，thearms，andthelegs，offtosleepbeforehathashitus。I’vetriedit—Iknow。IfyouhavetroublesleepiholdofDr。Fink’sbook，Releasefromension，whichIhavementioistheonlybookIknowofthatisbothlivelyreadingandania。

&hebestniaismakingyourselfphysicallytiredbygardening，swimming，tennis，golf，skiing，orbyjustplainphysicallyexhaustingwork。ThatiswhatTheodoreDreiserdid。Wherugglingyoungauthor，hewasworriedaboutinsomajasasedontheNewYorktralRailway；andafteradayspikesandshovelinggravel，hewassoexhaustedthathecouldhardlystayawakelooeat。

&iredenough，naturewillforceustosleepevenalking。Toillustrate，whenIwasthirteenyearsold，myfathershippedacar-loadoffathogstoSaintJoe，Missouri。Siasses，hetookmealongwithhim。Upuntilthattime，Ihadowhanfourthousand。WhenIlandedinSaiyofsixtythousand—Iwasagogwithext。Isaerssixsthand—wonderofwonders—Isawastreet-yeyesnowandstillseeastreet-car。Afterthemaingdayofmylife，fatherandItookatrainbacktoRavenwood，Missthereattwoo’them，wehadtowalkfourmileshometothefarm。IwassoexhaustedthatIsleptanddreamedasIwalked。IhaveoftewhileridinghorsebadIamalivetotellit！

letelyexhaustedtheysleeprightthroughthethunderandherofwar。Dr。FosterKehefamist，tellsmethatdurioftheFifthBritishArmyin1918，hesawsoldierssoexhaustedthattheyfeltonthegrouheywereaoasleepassoundasaa。Theydidn’tevenwheheireyelidswithhisfingers。Andhesaysheinvariablythepupilsoftheeyeswererolledupwardis。“Afterthat，”saysDr。Kenroublesleeping，Iwouldpractigupmyeyeballsintothisposition，andIfoundthatinafewsedsIwouldbegintoyawnandfeelsleepy。Itwasanautomaticreflexoverwhiotrol。”

edsuicidebyrefusingtosleepandnooneeverwill。Naturewouldfortosleepinspiteofallhiswillpower。usgowithoutfooderthausgowithoutsleep。

SpeakingofsuidsmeofacasethatDr。Henrykdeshisbook，TheRedisan。Dr。Linkisvice-presidentofThePsychologicalCorporatioervielewhoareressed。InhisingFearsaellsaboutapatientwhowaoitsuicide。Dr。Linkknewarguingwouldoerworse，sohesaidtothisman，“Ifytoitsuiyway，youmightatleastdoitinaheroi。Runaroundtheblotilyoudropdead。”

&，severaltimes，aimefeltbetter，inhismindifnotinhismuscles。BythethirdnighthehadachievedwhatDr。Lihefirstplace—hehysicallytired（andphysicallyrelaxed）thathesleptlikealog。Laterhejoihletidbegaeiivesports。Soonhewasfeelingsogoodhewaoliveforever。

珍妮？麦当娜对我说：当她心情沮丧、闷闷不乐而无法入睡时，便会重复《圣歌》第二十二章中的内容，以获得一种“安全感”——“上帝是我们的牧师，我心无杂念。他让我躺在绿色的牧地上，带领我来到幽静的溪流旁。”

如果你不信奉宗教，很难解决一些问题的话，你可以通过物理措施来进行放松。大卫？哈罗？芬克博士曾经写过一本名叫《消除神经紧张》的书，上面说治疗失眠的最好方法就是与自己的身体交谈。按照芬克所说，语言是所有催眠方法的关键；你一直不能入睡，是因为你对自己说得太多，患上了失眠症。解决方法是你对着自己身上的肌肉说：“放松，放松——放松肌肉，放松。”我们都知道，在我们睡觉时，如果肌肉处于紧张状态的话，思想和神经也得不到放松，因此我们先要放松肌肉。芬克博士推荐的解决方法是：把一个枕头放在膝下，使所有的腿部肌肉得到放松，再在胳膊底下分别塞几个小枕头。然后，放松下颚、眼睛、胳膊和腿，最后我们就不知不觉地进入了梦乡。我曾经试过，很有效。如果你很难入睡，可以看看芬克博士的书——《消除神经紧张》，我认为这是一本可读性强，并适合治疗失眠的书。