第1章 宽恕 1（第1页）

第1章宽恕（1）

IFiveYou

佚名Anonymous

Marriageisn’ttheoionshipthatneedsfi-ve’srequiredwithour，friends，workmates，neighborsarangers。Infaaionshipsurvivewithouttheoxygenive’snotanoptioyforpeoplewhoareintothatkindofthing；it’sauniversalyforrelationshipsandforyourowhandsanity。

Someofusmaythinkthatwe’vebeenhurttoodeeply，ortoooften，tive。Butironically，it’sthoseofuswho’vebeenmosthurtthatreallyive，foronesimplereason：likecer，bitternessdestroyitshost。U’sswiftlyrootedout，ittakesholdandgrauallyevenkillingthosewhoinsistongdetermi。

Forthetruthisthatunlesswefive，weeverrecover。Ourwoundswilluetofesterandheaeseproverbputsit，“Whoeverseeksrevengeshoulddigt>

Takiepforsomepeivenessfeelsimpossiblebecausetheyhaveogoaboutit。Thefirstandmostimportantthioacceptisthattheactivegoingtoeasy。Infact，itwillprobablybethehardestthingmostofuseverhavetodo。

&allyunfairthatweshouldhavetivewheheoneswhohavebeenhurt。Andthat’sthecruxiveness。

Thesaying“Fivea”mayrollofftheto’sasshallowasitisshort。Forohing，it’sdhtimpossible。Foramissesthewholepointivehineedfiveihifet。Ratherthahemu，weodrawalihem，deliberatelyottoagainstthepersonwhodidthem，andmovingon。

That’swhy，sometimes，theinitialactivenessmayseemrelativelyeasy，butdealingwiththeemotionsthatfolloweverytimeyouseethatpersohemorjustthinkaboutthem，behardertodealwith。Truefiveao；it’saotionaltation。

Andthelongeryouwaittivesomeoheharderitbeereallydoesjustgivesthebitternessaloawayatyoufrominside。Ifyouwaitfhttime”，youmay。

&ionyoushouldaskyourselfbefintotackletheartivehis：Howmanyofusareeverpletelyiiion？

So，mywife，elia，andIboughtapieceofcheap，flat-paeveure。Forthefirstfewmonths，itfooledeveryowassmart，fundimpressive，atedourhomeperfectly。Butastimerolledby，theveneersloeelattheedges。Itdidhesameimpressioleastitwasbeihefactisthat，likeitornot，behindoursmartveneer，we’realljustchipboard。Sobeforewebeeotherpeople’sjudgeandjury，we’dbewisetotakealong，hardlookatourselvesinthemirror。Andthemoreweseeourselves，wartsandall，themorewe’llwanttoaiveothersfortheirflaws，andthemive，themorewe’llkment。

Wouldyhtorhappy？Fetasatisfyiion。Soifyouthiandditiive，askyourselfthisquestion：Wouldyhtorhappy？