第22章 过有意义的人生 6（第2页）

inotherwords：换句话说，也就是说，换言之

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生活态度最重要

OudeIsImportant

拉塞尔？康威Russellwell

IwasattendingaseminarinSydneyinAprilandpickedupaleote。Initwasarefle“Attitude”。

ðeanonymouswriter：

“ThelongerIlive，themoreIrealizetheimpactofattitudeoude，tome，ismoreimportantthanfact。Itismoreimportantthahaion，thahanfailures，thahaneoplethinkorsayordo。Itismoreimportantthanappearaelligenceorskill。Itwillmakeorbreakapany，ae。

“Theremarkablethingisthatwehaveachardiudewewillembraceforthatday。Weotgethefactthatpeoplewillaaway。Weotgetheiheonlythingwedoistoplayorihatisourattitude。

“Iamcedthatlifeis10pertenstomeahowIreacttoit。Andsoitiswithyou。Youareinchargeofyourattitude。”

Thismeansthathappenstoyou，itishowyoureactorrespondtoitthatisimportant。

Youtroloriaisihquake，sabotage，terroristbombiruckbylightniraffitandsoon。Butyoutrolhowyouthisuts，evenwheheuimofa。

Youoanandgroanaboutyourmisfortuwhatyouhavelostphysicallyorfinancially。Oryouchoosetotysthatyouarestillalive，thatyouhavemostofyourphysientalfaculties。Aprolotitudewouldmakeyoumiserableandregressivewhereasagetoapositiveattitudewouldspuryoutothinkofpossibilities。

Youcouldbetauntedordisatedagainstifyoulostaleg，armoraneye。You’thelpsomeiivepeopledoingsugs。Ifyoufretoverwhatissaidandwhathasbeendeprivedofyou，doesitmakeyouaermined，perseveringorresourceful？

&titudetotakeiss，sarcasm，rudeness，ridiockerybotheryou。Whyrespoivelytosuchbehavioursofotherpeople？Itdoesn’tpaytostrikebaptuouslyatthem。Ifyoudthatyouareemotionally>

Showthatyouareemotier，thatyoudoradeinsultswithinsults，thatwhattheysayordodoesall。Showthedignitythattheydonothave。

Thepainisnotiivepeoplesayaboutyouordotobelittleyou。Thepainisinhowyouiaosuchacts。

&eivelyover-reactto，or“read”toomuto，lesayordo。It’sacaseofseeianissueasbigwhenitcouldreallybeinsignifit。

Evenifpeopleiyaredhtinhuman，youchoosetoigheirbehaviourorall。Thatisrealselfmastery。

Losingapartofthebodyisnottheemightbetheendofacareerthatyouweretrainedinandthebeginningofaagain，itmightnot。IfthefamousStephenHaeakthroughaputergadget，ifagolferstillplaywithametalarm，thenatrainerwholosesbothlegsorarmsstillfiherwaystoteach。

Whenyoulosehope，whenyoudespair，whenyoublamepeopleallthetime，whenyoudootryahenyouakelifemeaninglessforyourself。