第13章 保持平静小贴士 Tips for Staying Calm（第1页）

第13章保持平静小贴士TipsfCalm

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Afriendhadpassedtheintervieortantnewjob;allthatremainedwasforthepresidentoftheeethiswife。

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Oneeveningasanacewasleavingforaweekendtrip，herp;apos;tstart-andthreefrieingtobepiastreeter。Shehadnowayofgettingwordtothem;theywereiserableandworriedwhenshearrivedanhourlate。Singherpredit，I'vealwaysarrapeoplewheretheyorIbereacaseofdelay。Iteobefarmorepatiehingsg。

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You'renot，ofeofusare。Iftthattheworldisourstoenjoybutnotmadeforource，os;llbebetterablethitequably，morepatientwiththeordinaryvicissitudesoflifeandagoodpaniontoourfellowhumanbeingsandtoourselves。

老人慢慢地数着硬币，一个，两个……我盯着他颤抖的手指，恼怒地叹着气，不耐烦地在结账的队伍里晃着身子。听到了我的叹息声，他抱歉地笑了笑——那是一种羞愧的笑，是一种因自己的衰弱耽误了社会事务而内疚的笑容。

那一刻，我后悔极了。我想，终有一天自己也会像他那样，需要陌生人的善意。于是，我拍了拍他磨损的衣袖，说：“别急，慢慢来。”

接着，我想起了自己很多次都缺乏耐心——绿灯一亮就按喇叭，尖刻地批评反应慢的人。缺乏耐心有什么大不了的吗？是的，这样不行。不耐烦时，你很容易表现的粗鲁，这种行为会引起他人恼火、固执或不合作等不良结果。

于是，我决定耐心点，也想出了在紧迫情形下能使自己平静的种种办法。我不敢说这些方法会让我脱胎换骨，耐性十足，但至少它们能帮我消除生活中的某些烦躁，并在大多数场合控制住情绪。