第8章 成功的DNA密码 7（第1页）

第8章成功的DNA密码（7）

M。ScottPeck，M。D。，authorofthebest-sellerTheRoadLessTraveled，describesthistoolofdiseas“aprocessofsgthepainandpleasureoflifeinsuchawayastoehepleasurebymeetingahepainfirstaoverwith。”

Thismightiinedailydeethingassimpleasskippingafavoritelate-nightTVshowaobedearly，tobewideawakeforameetimhtiermresolves。Ayoungiththreedecidedtoiherilementiionforherself。Shesideredtherealitiesofatightbudgetaime，buttheseseemedsmallsacrifireturhatadegreewouldopen。Todaysheisahighlypaidfinansultant。

&ofsueingpastthedrudgeryahedelight。“Thefactisthatmanyworthwhileendeavorsaren’tfun，”sayssyndicatedradioandTVortCrim，“True，alllaymakesJohnnyadullbtoturhioplaymakesforterriblefrustrations，becauselife—everewardingone—includescesthataren’tfunatall。Ilikemyjobasajournalist。It’spersonallysatisfying，bititisn’talwaysfun。”

Agabalance

Neverfusedisewithrigidity。Perfeottheaim;rather，striveforthepeaindthatbeinginchargeofyourself。

Mostofuserludesinourworktotakeawalkoreatsnack-whateverrevivesandrefreshes。Yourbreathersdoobelengthytoshakeoutthedgivesomerelief。Suchrewardsativesforfinishingatask，asingyoutomaium。

Truediseachievesabalance，n。Evendiseedstobedised。

Self-development

Disedpeoplearehappierpeoplebecausetheyarefulfilliial。Awomanatoneofmyseminarstoldmeabouthersix-year-olddaughterithateamandpracticedeverymforanhour，swimming2，000to3，000meters，sherelatedaversatihterhadwithafamilyfriend。

“Doyoulikeswimming?”Thefriendasked。

“Yes，Iloveit。”

“Isitfun?”

“No!”

Thatsix-year-oldhadlearmanyadultshejoyofdisdself-development。Uheveryworddiseputsusoffbecauseitsouiveandpuruaalkingustomakesurewetoetheliruediseisn’tonyourbagyouwithimperatives;itisatyourside，nudgingyouwithiives。Whehatdiseisself-otself-g，youweatitsmention，butwillcultivateit。

CharleyBoswell，aformerUyofAlabamafootballstarwithhopesofaprofessionalbaseballcareer，losthiseyesightinWorldWarII，butthatdidn’tstophim“tobeetheNationalBlindGolfes。”HewasquotedassayiwhatI’velost。IonlytwhatIhaveleft。”Thatisself-development—thatisdise。

Habit-gstrategies

Manyaperson’sdowryingtogeabadhabitbyfoanundesirablebehaviortoreplaceit。

tlesspeopletellmetheywouldliketoeatbetterbutdon’twantto“giveup”tastyfood。Ratherthanthinkingaboutwhatthey’thave，theyshouldthinkaboutwhattheyeat。Fruitjuicewithsparklierisadelicioussubstitutefh-caloriesoftdrinks;snadcookiespreparedwithwholegrainsasgivedybarsgoodpetition。

Itisogeoldhabits。Awomaaseminarandsaid，“I’msoundised。I’tsticktoadietandmyhouseisalwaysamess。Ifeellikeaslob。”Itoldhershewasn’ttotallyundised。“Youmadeittothisce。Youarrivepromptlyatea，alydressed。”Shealmostsmiled，andthehere’sprobablyareasonwhyyouhaveoloseweightetyourhomeinorder。”

Later，Ifoundouttherewasabigreason。Sheedayearbefore。Herhusbandhadbeenanalcoholicwhoverballyabusedherall24yearse。Itneveroccurredtoherthatapoorself-imageingherfromeffegpositiveges。Withthisrealizatioheepinbringingmoredisetoherlife—bygoingforg。Meanwhile，someofherfrieoetoherhouseandhelpherup，puttingherevenmoresolidlyonahabit-gcourse。

Mier

IremembermyschooldaysandMularreveille:“Timetogetup!”Iagonizedihelastminuteandraieheodhadtogetmyselfup。Finally，tiredofakihatwhenthealarmrang，Iwouldrise—justbecauseIwaardlessofhowIfelt。Ithasworkedeversince。

InFeelingGood:Theherapy，DavidD。Burns，M。D。writes，“Motivatioefirst，adoes!Youhavetoprimethepump。Ifyouwaituntilyou’re‘inthemood，’youmaywaitforever。”Whenyoudon’tfeellikedoihiitoff，butit’softeiaskthatwebeehighlymotivated。

Diseishabit-f。Alittleleadstomore，becausethebesprlydesirable。Whenyoufinallyovereiia，youwillfeelbetterallarouourbest—physidmentally—lined。